Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults
So those who have read my " How We Met" post know by now that Sebastian is Catholic, and that was always a very important feature for me for a feature spouse. What some of you may or may not know is that he is not confirmed! When I found this out I was pretty much in shock and not sure how to take this.
Sebastian decided to not get confirmed at the "normal age" as most young Catholics do as he felt he was not ready. I admire this in him because I felt the same way! I felt like I wanted to go to CCD for one more year, really dive into the Bible, ask those hard to answer questions, and really make this a serious commitment. Unfortunately my parents did not agree and "highly encouraged" me to not cause shame on the family and get confirmed that year, my CCD teachers agreed with my parents. I was not a very happy camper.
Now looking back I am glad that I did it that year but... for reasons you may not expect.
"Forcing" me into confirmation made me highly dislike the church, which lead to me tearing away with a " I'm never coming back" which actually let me to do my own research, join a Newman Center in college and FINALLY get all of those questions answered.
Ladies, it was bad. I wasn't prepared for confirmation at that time at all. I would say 75% of my class at the time couldn't name more than 5 saints, didn't know what the Catechism was, never opened a bible after communion ( including class!), didn't pass their test , thought that we DO worship Mary and the Saints, and probably a hundred of other things that I could think of. I was definitely one of them, and I WANTED to know. I didn't find out in COLLEGE that the Mass has two parts, that the Eucharist is the actual Blood and Body of Jesus Christ!
I could blame my parents, but coming from a communistic country where 1) Catholicism was banned and 2) if you happened to find a Mass and go, it was in Latin, no one understood what was said at Church. So I can only praise them for continuing their Catholic faith and passing it on to me.
I could blame the school, but they had a lot of students, and I was just another number. Lack of resources, lack of funds, they wanted us to just get confirmed without causing problems.
Instead, I give no blame but count it as a learning experience. I learned on my own time and now... I get to "re do" it with Sebastian!
Sebastian was fortunate to get that option of being confirmed or not. He decided not to and, he went through a rough patch of whether he wanted to stay in the Church, which he decided he couldn't live without it! It has taken him way to long, but he made it a priority that before we are married he must be confirmed!
Living in the middle of nowhere kind of sucks sometimes But we FOUND A CHURCH THAT WE LOVE!!!!! It is a little bigger than what we expected but that just means more resources etc.! It is also 45 minutes away, but hey talking time in the car ;) ?
Their RCIA program meets on Tuesday evenings, and guess what... I am encouraged to come. Which means I get to learn and relearn more awesome church teachings. You know what else? I am praying that we find some couples/individuals that we can get together with!
I am excited:)
Maybe this church even has bible studies that I could participate in or something similar? :)
God bless :)