Monday, November 3, 2014
Why I Veil; Part 6
For this weeks edition of Why I Veil, I would like to welcome and thank Ms. Rebecca for contributing her story! I know Rebecca from a woman's covering group on Facebook!
Here is her story...
I currently veil at Mass, and cover occasionally outside of Mass. I began veiling during the last Lenten season as part of my Lenten sacrifice. I had flirted with veiling in the past during my college years, but having gone to a more liberal Catholic university and not knowing anyone else that veiled at the time, I did not stick with it. I studied theology in school and enjoy studying scripture and writings of the saints, church fathers, etc. Some time last year, I started reading a lot of saint writings written by female saints: St. Therese of Lisieux, Mother Teresa, St. Teresa of Avila, and St. Benedicta of the Cross in particular. I guess you could say I was on a journey to make sense of what it means to be a Catholic woman in today’s world. At the same time, I also started reading The Real Presence by St. Peter Julian Eymard (which I HIGHLY recommend), which in turn prompted me to start spending time in adoration each week. One day, I felt the call to veil again, and this time I was strong enough to listen and obey.
I don’t cover full time just yet, and I’m not really sure I ever will. I think I’m still developing a theology of what it means to me. But during the times I have covered, it has been very peaceful, like an offering of my beauty to Him.
I asked Rebecca how did family and friends react when she first started covering?
I am the only practicing Catholic in my family, so I don’t think anyone knows I veil. And when I have covered, no one has said anything. I’m African American, and culturally speaking covering a woman’s hair is actually quite normal. When I started veiling during Lent, I did have a few girlfriends do it with me, and we were able to support each other during the transition, which was such a blessing to all of us. I’m currently single and dating, but my veiling hasn’t really come up in conversation. I’m sure it will eventually, and when it does I will explain it as a personal devotion.
Since I only veil full time, I’ll only speak to that. While it can be intimidating to start veiling, especially if you do not go to a parish where the TLM ( Traditional Latin Mass) is offered, remember that the only person you’re doing this for is the Lord who called you to do so.
I asked Rebecca to share any recommendations for women who are thinking about covering full time?
Most Sundays I attend an FSSP parish where veiling is not only normal but encouraged, but I also travel a lot, and I like visiting other parishes. I was fearful of veiling in unfamiliar parishes, but I’ve really only ever gotten compliments (and okay, a few stares too.) Know why you are veiling, and have an answer prepared in case anyone asks you why (especially if it is another woman or a little girl!) You do not need to go on a tirade about the history of the veil or what St. Paul said in Corinthians. A more simple answer about how you are reverencing the Eucharist will suffice. Also, find some support! There is a growing population of women rediscovering the veil, and many of us are online in support groups.
Thank you Rebecca SO much for sharing your ongoing journey with veiling and covering. Know that I will be praying for you!